Everyone That's "For You" isn't For You....Find the GOOD in GOODbye!

“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you..." -Colin Powell

   Now I really don't need to elaborate much on this as it is pretty straight forward, but, for the sake of discussion and clarity I will! Now, the title of this blog is "everyone that is "for you" isn't for you. Now I meant this in 2 separate ways...say it once with emphasis on the first "for you" and once again with the emphasis on the last and it will begin to make sense.

  With the emphasis on the first "for you" we will begin to discuss my first point. In this sense I do not mean that your friends are your enemies, though sometimes that may be the case. Instead I mean for you to understand that your friends, though they are your buddies, "roll dogs", confidants, or what have you, are not always the best source of inspiration, advice, or motivation. If you hang out with bums, chances are, that's what you are, or are to become. If you hang out with pessimistic people, you will begin to view the world in a negative light. Yes, you will be the man/woman blaming "the man" or the "woman on the corner with her 50 cats" or, and this is most common and most undesirable MISERABLE! Surround yourself with positive, driven people, because when you do, in order to continue to do so you will have to yourself become or continue to be positive and driven.

   With the emphasis on the last "for you" I mean this. Everyone that says they are for you, even if they halfway act like it, is not for you. When you talk to them about your plans, tribulations, and other things in your life what is their response? Misery LOVES company. I mean you can make a sad man glad if you are an ounce more miserable than he. When you are doing well do they point out the bad that is surely to come because this couldn't possibly be happening to you. This person may answer the phone every time you call, even hang around every time they get a chance. This person however, is not for you. They may possible stick around when you are doing well if they can gain from it, but if not, they will be out quicker than they came. These people, are wolves in sheep's clothing. Find the good and saying goodbye to these people. Or, do you surround yourself with those who encourage you and uplift you and point you in the right direction? These people will make sure you are doing what you need to because they are indeed for you. They find joy in your success and put you right back on track when you go astray, and they will do it promptly so that you do not stray too far. Surround yourselves with these people for they are the ones that will hold you up when you feel you've had enough, and rejoice in your success.

Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!

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