Within Ourselves

"We may act sophisticated and worldly but I believe we feel safest when we go inside ourselves and find home, a place where we belong and maybe the only place we really do"- Maya Angelou, Letters to My Daughter



Well let me first start by apologizing for my hiatus.

     Now that the pleasantries are out of the way we can get to today's topic. Finding comfort and validation within yourself. I have struggled (past tense) with this throughout my life as every one has. From about the time you enter school, until, well there is no end if you never resolve the issue, we look for somewhere to belong, someone to emulate, and some way to feel comfort and peace. We strive for acceptance and validation from our parents, to our spouses, and our superiors. We yearn for a peace and comfort from anywhere we can get it. When a situation falls through we immediately fear what people will think or say. We fear judgement or rejection more than we do the failure.
     What I took from this part of  Ms. Angelou's book is that when we do ultimately find that which we cant in others, reliably that is, within ourselves, we find what it is that we have been searching for, and we never lose it. We may walk with confidence and speak with prowess, but it is because we emulate that which is within ourselves. The comfort you find in understanding yourself and exactly who you are gives you the confidence to exude the things that you know makes you great. You'll find that people will see what you've been trying to portray because it'll come naturally and effortlessly. 
     Now happiness we know comes from two things, security and faith. What we neglect to remember is that through faith we find security. Faith being "the substance of things hoped for, [and] the evidence of things not seen"- Hebrews 11:1. Self explanatory. Now Miss Angelou speaks of finding a happy place within ourselves. Of  finding a place within ourselves, in the midst of all of the chaos, sadness, hurt, and disappointment that we can go to for comfort. My place is the beach. I went to the beach with my best friend during a very hard time in my life, one of the hardest, and I remember walking in the ocean and looking out. I never wanted to forget what I saw. It was a perfect day. I looked out into the ocean, and all I could see was Ocean and a beautiful sky. I thought to myself, now this, this is what peace would look like, if it had a picture definition. Simple but beautiful in every way. So when I find myself yearning for peace and simplicity I close my eyes and go to that place. So take a minute and think of something that brings you happiness and go there. Take that peace with you everywhere you go.

Think about it.

Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!

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