"When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will command the attention of the world." - George Washington Carver
I love love love this quote because it speaks volumes to what we as individuals face when trying to differentiate ourselves from others, trying desperately never to disappear into a crowd. To be that one in a million.
When I go to auditions or casting calls or interviews I always focus on this thought. "You need to do something to set yourself apart without straying from who you are, because if you project who you truly are, that, will be enough." What can you do to make this one thing, that everyone is capable of doing, seem amazing when being done by you. How can you say basically the same sour thing someone else has said sound like honey? How can great delivery turn the most mediocre of things into something grand? It is because we as people are attracted to unique things.
Before you do something think about your approach. What do you have to do, how does everyone else do it, how are you going to step it up? Have you ever seen everyone rave over something that seemed small to you? Delivery is the key. Do the common everyday things in a way that command attention. Once you have some one's attention you have an opportunity.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Thursday, January 31, 2013
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Forgive!...yeah, that's it.
"We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies." ~ Martin Luther King, Jr
When I was younger I always heard the elders say "You better forgive them so you can rest easy, because I guarantee you they already are!" A lot of times we find ourselves holding on to things whether they be big or small. Things or people that have hurt or disappointed us. Guess what, you are hurting you more than you are hurting them. It takes a ton of energy to hold on to things. I don't know about you, but I don't have much to spare, especially on trivial things. I know it also takes a lot of energy to forgive, but not continuous energy. Once you truly forgive, you are free.
Everyone makes mistakes and everyone lets people down. Even you, and yes, even me. "Judge not lest ye be judged" Matthew 7 "For all have sinned and fell short of the glory of God" Romans 3:23. Yes, even you. Technically you telling that little lie to your mom, was no less than someone later telling you a big one. Bad is bad and good is good. We are not all of either of those things.
What MLK Jr. is telling us is that when we discover forgiveness we discover true love, peace, and understanding of others. When we can forgive it is because we understand that there are imperfections in all of us and we need not hold on to those things, the bad, and when we let them go, we can see the good in others, or our situation. Hate is something that eats away at you like salt to a slug. It swells you up and then you explode, you, are left in pieces, not the subject of your hate, you.
The next time you feel the need to hold on to something, think about all of the wrong you have done, big or small, and you will see that nothing is worth holding onto, losing sleep, and being bitter over. Bitterness, you can have it, YUCK!
Make a conscious effort forgive and see how your quality of life and peace improves.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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When I was younger I always heard the elders say "You better forgive them so you can rest easy, because I guarantee you they already are!" A lot of times we find ourselves holding on to things whether they be big or small. Things or people that have hurt or disappointed us. Guess what, you are hurting you more than you are hurting them. It takes a ton of energy to hold on to things. I don't know about you, but I don't have much to spare, especially on trivial things. I know it also takes a lot of energy to forgive, but not continuous energy. Once you truly forgive, you are free.
Everyone makes mistakes and everyone lets people down. Even you, and yes, even me. "Judge not lest ye be judged" Matthew 7 "For all have sinned and fell short of the glory of God" Romans 3:23. Yes, even you. Technically you telling that little lie to your mom, was no less than someone later telling you a big one. Bad is bad and good is good. We are not all of either of those things.
What MLK Jr. is telling us is that when we discover forgiveness we discover true love, peace, and understanding of others. When we can forgive it is because we understand that there are imperfections in all of us and we need not hold on to those things, the bad, and when we let them go, we can see the good in others, or our situation. Hate is something that eats away at you like salt to a slug. It swells you up and then you explode, you, are left in pieces, not the subject of your hate, you.
The next time you feel the need to hold on to something, think about all of the wrong you have done, big or small, and you will see that nothing is worth holding onto, losing sleep, and being bitter over. Bitterness, you can have it, YUCK!
Make a conscious effort forgive and see how your quality of life and peace improves.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Sunday, January 20, 2013
Use Your Apparent Destruction for Your Construction
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and conveniences, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." - Martin Luther King Junior
In the spirit of Martin Luther King Jr day I am using on of what I feel is one of his greatest quotes. Basically what I am trying to tell you is anyone can be great when their circumstances are great, but when you are stuck between a rock and a hard place and don't know how you're going to get through, and you do, and you come out on top, that, is greatness. The ability to see past your right now. To not only have patience and wait, but also to work.
Usually when things are going well we don't think to do anything to get ahead because we are content with ourselves and our situation. Sometimes it takes a struggle for us to get vision. By vision I mean the ability form and idea of where you want to be, to see yourself where you can be, and begin taking the steps to get there. Am I saying this will happen over night. NO! That is unrealistic. But what's for certain is if you do nothing, you will get nothing in return. That, is for certain. Everyone gets knocked down, the beauty is in the ability to get right back up again. Often you see people and think, "Man they are doing it!", but you do not know the story behind their glory. Or the stress they endured to get to their success. If you can, ask them what their story is. I garuntee you it didn't come easy.
Be diligent in all that you do and do not dwell in your circumstances. Do not get beat down and stay there. Be able to look back and laugh. Know that what was, won't be anymore. Know that the only place you can go from the bottom is up. Use your distress for your success. It's not over until God says it's over. With the faith of a mustard seed you can move mountains.
In the spirit of Martin Luther King Jr day I am using on of what I feel is one of his greatest quotes. Basically what I am trying to tell you is anyone can be great when their circumstances are great, but when you are stuck between a rock and a hard place and don't know how you're going to get through, and you do, and you come out on top, that, is greatness. The ability to see past your right now. To not only have patience and wait, but also to work.
Usually when things are going well we don't think to do anything to get ahead because we are content with ourselves and our situation. Sometimes it takes a struggle for us to get vision. By vision I mean the ability form and idea of where you want to be, to see yourself where you can be, and begin taking the steps to get there. Am I saying this will happen over night. NO! That is unrealistic. But what's for certain is if you do nothing, you will get nothing in return. That, is for certain. Everyone gets knocked down, the beauty is in the ability to get right back up again. Often you see people and think, "Man they are doing it!", but you do not know the story behind their glory. Or the stress they endured to get to their success. If you can, ask them what their story is. I garuntee you it didn't come easy.
Be diligent in all that you do and do not dwell in your circumstances. Do not get beat down and stay there. Be able to look back and laugh. Know that what was, won't be anymore. Know that the only place you can go from the bottom is up. Use your distress for your success. It's not over until God says it's over. With the faith of a mustard seed you can move mountains.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
Want to discuss this or other posts? Comment below the post you are referring to, or simply click my email address and I will respond to you within 48 hours.
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Fool Me Once, Shame on You. Fool Me Twice, Shame on Me,
"History, despite it's wrenching pain, cannot be unlived, but if faced with courage, need not be lived again." - Mya Angelou
A lot of times we are the victims of being "fooled twice", aka ignorance. Ouch. Yes, I said it, we as a people can be painfully ignorant, bordering on insanity. Insane? Yes, insane. The definition of insanity is to do the same thing twice and expect different results, so, according to that definition, if we do allow history to repeat itself, and are surprised when it does, we are insane. I say we because I have done it too. I have learned from and corrected this, but I've done it before.
As we go back to the quote above we will see that if we open our eyes, analyze the situation, and then make it a point not to repeat those actions, decisions, we will not endure the same feat. We do this by doing the following:
1) Gain a set of standards. Write down what you will and will not accept from yourself and those around you.
2) Stick to those standards. Making the list is cool, but if you do not apply it to your life it's just a pretty piece of paper with nice words on it that collects dust. Have the courage to let those around you know what you will and will not accept. What you require of them. I am not saying be rude. There is a tactful way to say everything, you just have to take the time to figure out what that is. Or, tell me what you're trying to say and I'll help. Yes, I will actually respond to your emails.
3) Use your hurt and disappointment from the last hardship and use it as motivation. Make up in your mind that you are not going back to that place. Do you really want to endure it twice? From hardship you gain wisdom, what doesn't kill you streinghtens you. Don't let hardships break you down and begin to accept anything less that what you know you deserve.
4) Know your worth. Know that you deserve to get out of situations what you put in. When you know your worth steps 1,2,& 3 come easily!
There is no reason to repeat the things in your life that cause you pain, or hinder your success. Being happy is a choice. We learn how to be through wisdom, understanding, and a sense of peace.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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A lot of times we are the victims of being "fooled twice", aka ignorance. Ouch. Yes, I said it, we as a people can be painfully ignorant, bordering on insanity. Insane? Yes, insane. The definition of insanity is to do the same thing twice and expect different results, so, according to that definition, if we do allow history to repeat itself, and are surprised when it does, we are insane. I say we because I have done it too. I have learned from and corrected this, but I've done it before.
As we go back to the quote above we will see that if we open our eyes, analyze the situation, and then make it a point not to repeat those actions, decisions, we will not endure the same feat. We do this by doing the following:
1) Gain a set of standards. Write down what you will and will not accept from yourself and those around you.
2) Stick to those standards. Making the list is cool, but if you do not apply it to your life it's just a pretty piece of paper with nice words on it that collects dust. Have the courage to let those around you know what you will and will not accept. What you require of them. I am not saying be rude. There is a tactful way to say everything, you just have to take the time to figure out what that is. Or, tell me what you're trying to say and I'll help. Yes, I will actually respond to your emails.
3) Use your hurt and disappointment from the last hardship and use it as motivation. Make up in your mind that you are not going back to that place. Do you really want to endure it twice? From hardship you gain wisdom, what doesn't kill you streinghtens you. Don't let hardships break you down and begin to accept anything less that what you know you deserve.
4) Know your worth. Know that you deserve to get out of situations what you put in. When you know your worth steps 1,2,& 3 come easily!
There is no reason to repeat the things in your life that cause you pain, or hinder your success. Being happy is a choice. We learn how to be through wisdom, understanding, and a sense of peace.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Friday, January 18, 2013
Everyone That's "For You" isn't For You....Find the GOOD in GOODbye!
“The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve. Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity. An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people. As you grow, your associates will change. Some of your friends will not want you to go on. They will want you to stay where they are. Friends that don't help you climb will want you to crawl. Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream. Those that don't increase you will eventually decrease you..." -Colin Powell
Now I really don't need to elaborate much on this as it is pretty straight forward, but, for the sake of discussion and clarity I will! Now, the title of this blog is "everyone that is "for you" isn't for you. Now I meant this in 2 separate ways...say it once with emphasis on the first "for you" and once again with the emphasis on the last and it will begin to make sense.
With the emphasis on the first "for you" we will begin to discuss my first point. In this sense I do not mean that your friends are your enemies, though sometimes that may be the case. Instead I mean for you to understand that your friends, though they are your buddies, "roll dogs", confidants, or what have you, are not always the best source of inspiration, advice, or motivation. If you hang out with bums, chances are, that's what you are, or are to become. If you hang out with pessimistic people, you will begin to view the world in a negative light. Yes, you will be the man/woman blaming "the man" or the "woman on the corner with her 50 cats" or, and this is most common and most undesirable MISERABLE! Surround yourself with positive, driven people, because when you do, in order to continue to do so you will have to yourself become or continue to be positive and driven.
With the emphasis on the last "for you" I mean this. Everyone that says they are for you, even if they halfway act like it, is not for you. When you talk to them about your plans, tribulations, and other things in your life what is their response? Misery LOVES company. I mean you can make a sad man glad if you are an ounce more miserable than he. When you are doing well do they point out the bad that is surely to come because this couldn't possibly be happening to you. This person may answer the phone every time you call, even hang around every time they get a chance. This person however, is not for you. They may possible stick around when you are doing well if they can gain from it, but if not, they will be out quicker than they came. These people, are wolves in sheep's clothing. Find the good and saying goodbye to these people. Or, do you surround yourself with those who encourage you and uplift you and point you in the right direction? These people will make sure you are doing what you need to because they are indeed for you. They find joy in your success and put you right back on track when you go astray, and they will do it promptly so that you do not stray too far. Surround yourselves with these people for they are the ones that will hold you up when you feel you've had enough, and rejoice in your success.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Are You Worth it to YOU?
“If Cinderella were given a single shining epiphany (instead of a fairy godmother), she would have realized: "This is my father's house. This is my father's estate. I am the rightful heiress to everything here!" then she would have said: "Get off of my property, take nothing with you, and never show your faces to me again! You ugly, bitter, insecure, envious witches!" And I'm sure she would have been happier, sooner!”
― C. JoyBell C.
― C. JoyBell C.
Now, since Cinderella didnt see or think of herself as anything but the servant girl, guess what she was? You guessed it, a servant girl. Had she known her worth, she would have realized that she was in fact, the owner of everything her stepmother and sisters used to opress her. That they in fact needed her. Now in life as soon as we realize our worth we autimatically improve our situations. When you TRULEY realize your worth. When you are on a job interview and they ask you your strenghts do you say well I dont know I guess I am okay at these few things, or do you say I am an asset to this company/your business because I can bring these things to the table and I will be the best at them. When you meet a young man/woman do you say well, I guess I am worth your time, I kind of like myself, and I am ok looking, and I guess slightly entertaining as well. Or, do you instead exhibit and radiate the kind of confidence and finess that demands attention, respect, and devotion? Be beautiiful to you and watch how beautiful you become to others. Be an intelligent person, realize it for yourself, and see how much respect and attention you demand. Realize your potential for success and your current successes and realize how others look to you for nothing less. "That seems like it would be a source of a little too much pressure" some may say. I say, " Remember, from pressure diamonds are created". "It seems like it would be a little stressful", others may say. I say, "If you are focusing on you it isn't". By doing so you grow and those excpectations are met for you and those that look up to you. You see, confidence attracts everyone, not just men or women. It demands attention and respect, it gives you a chance to live up to what you portray. It gives you a chance to take action and show your worth through your success and happiness, Now, do not for a second get confidence confused with arigance, entitlement, or cockiness, because those things, are more of a hinderance to your success than a mere lack of confidence. Consider this your single shining epiphany, apply it and see where it takes you.
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Thursday, January 10, 2013
Did You Miss It???
OK, I know I normally start of with a quote from my "Phenomenal Woman", but this time I am going switch it up and throw a joke in here!
"God Will Help Me "
There was a very religious man named Jim, who lived near a river. One
day, the river rose over the banks and flooded the town, and Jim was
forced to climb onto his porch roof. While sitting there, a man in a
boat came along and told Jim to get in the boat with him.
Jim said, "No, that's okay. God will take care of me."
So, the man in the boat drove off.
The water rose higher, so Jim climbed onto his roof. At that time,
another boat came along, and the person in that one told Jim to get
in.
Jim replied, "No, that's okay. God will take care of me."
The person in the boat then left.
The water rose even more, and Jim climbed onto his chimney. A
helicopter came along and lowered a ladder for him. The woman in the
helicopter told Jim to climb up the ladder and get in.
Jim said, "That's okay."
The woman said, "Are you sure?"
Jim replied, "Yeah, I'm sure God will take care of me."
Finally, the water rose too high and Jim drowned. Jim got to heaven
and was face-to-face with God.
Jim said to God, "You told me that you would take care of me! What
happened?"
God replied, "Well, I sent you two boats and a helicopter. What else
did you want?"
Hahahaha, I love that one! Why? Because I myself have missed the boat quite a few times. You know what they say, if you cant laugh at yourself you'll have nothing to laugh at as you grow older. At any rate I started with this to say that a lot of times when we are waiting on God to do something for us, or just waiting for something to occur to better our current situations, we miss it because we are looking for the wrong thing. You see, we often get caught up in looking for "magic to happen". By magic I mean "poof it's fixed", or "poof I'm happy", or "poof I'm not alone" or my FAVORITE "poof I'm rich!" That my friend, is not reality. That is not how things work, at all. We have to get up and recognize that what is sent to us is an opportunity, or an idea, or motivation, it is then up to us to take that and turn it into what it is we are striving for. Proverbs 14:23 "All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty". Now does this sound like the words of one that is going to just "poof" success for you? Pay attention. Don't get caught turning things down because your idea of a blessing or opportunity is something that doesn't require effort, something that just happens, something "easy". Often, easy things are the things you do not want in your life. Proverbs 12:11, "Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies have no sense". Are you missing the boats?
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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"God Will Help Me "
There was a very religious man named Jim, who lived near a river. One
day, the river rose over the banks and flooded the town, and Jim was
forced to climb onto his porch roof. While sitting there, a man in a
boat came along and told Jim to get in the boat with him.
Jim said, "No, that's okay. God will take care of me."
So, the man in the boat drove off.
The water rose higher, so Jim climbed onto his roof. At that time,
another boat came along, and the person in that one told Jim to get
in.
Jim replied, "No, that's okay. God will take care of me."
The person in the boat then left.
The water rose even more, and Jim climbed onto his chimney. A
helicopter came along and lowered a ladder for him. The woman in the
helicopter told Jim to climb up the ladder and get in.
Jim said, "That's okay."
The woman said, "Are you sure?"
Jim replied, "Yeah, I'm sure God will take care of me."
Finally, the water rose too high and Jim drowned. Jim got to heaven
and was face-to-face with God.
Jim said to God, "You told me that you would take care of me! What
happened?"
God replied, "Well, I sent you two boats and a helicopter. What else
did you want?"
Hahahaha, I love that one! Why? Because I myself have missed the boat quite a few times. You know what they say, if you cant laugh at yourself you'll have nothing to laugh at as you grow older. At any rate I started with this to say that a lot of times when we are waiting on God to do something for us, or just waiting for something to occur to better our current situations, we miss it because we are looking for the wrong thing. You see, we often get caught up in looking for "magic to happen". By magic I mean "poof it's fixed", or "poof I'm happy", or "poof I'm not alone" or my FAVORITE "poof I'm rich!" That my friend, is not reality. That is not how things work, at all. We have to get up and recognize that what is sent to us is an opportunity, or an idea, or motivation, it is then up to us to take that and turn it into what it is we are striving for. Proverbs 14:23 "All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty". Now does this sound like the words of one that is going to just "poof" success for you? Pay attention. Don't get caught turning things down because your idea of a blessing or opportunity is something that doesn't require effort, something that just happens, something "easy". Often, easy things are the things you do not want in your life. Proverbs 12:11, "Those who work their land will have abundant food, but those who chase fantasies have no sense". Are you missing the boats?
Remember...YOU be Your biggest fan!
Now get out there and make it happen captain!
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Wednesday, January 9, 2013
Making Moves!
“Nothing will work unless you do.” - Maya Angelou
Now this could be interpreted two different ways. The negative, which would be if what I do doesn't work I will not be successful. The correct one, and the positive would be if you do not put in the effort or "work" , you will not reach your goals "it wont work". Faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26). This means that you can have a great outlook on things, be positive, maybe even motivated, but if you do not take action none of that matters.You have to start something in order to have the end result. GET UP! You see, not only need our hearts be free from strife and full of love, but our minds focused, and our bodies active -me. Keep this in mind today and decide how you will take action.
Remember...YOU be YOUR biggest fan!.
Monday, January 7, 2013
A Quote to get us started by one of the greatest women out there...Maya Angelou!
" A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sing because it has a song." - Maya Angelou
Now you guys can see from my profile that I love this woman, but this quote speaks to me in that it makes me realize that in spite of it's bondage and circumstance the caged bird STILL sings it STILL has a song, and nothing or no one can take that. Today I emplore you to find your song and see it and watch it morph into the ballad of you as you overcome and you will then sing a song of the you that was and is no more, and what you are to become and the happiness you will come to feel and then watch as it becomes your song of freedom and triumph.
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